I Submit to Him

I submit to him. 

Yes, you read that right–I submit to my husband. (Stick with me here, I have a point to make.)

I submit to him when I help him pick out his clothes at the store (he’s colorblind and he wouldn’t know how to match). 

I submit to him when I cook the meals that he prefers. It’s an act of love to serve him food that I know he loves. 

I submit to him when I pick up the things he likes at the grocery store. I want him to have what he needs. 

I submit to him when I remind him that it’s time for him to schedule his doctor’s appointment (notice I said I don’t schedule it for him though, unless of course, he doesn’t have time in his work day). I want him to routinely check up on his health because I want him to live a long and happy life with me. 

No, I’m not his maid and I’m not his mom. He doesn’t treat me like one either. I’m his partner and he looks to me as such. I’m equal to him and he knows he can’t do life without me. Submission is not him ruling over me. 

Submission is an act of love. 

And I love my husband, till death do we part, right? 

Paul puts it this way in Ephesians 5:22, “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.” And again in verse 25, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” Verse 28 paints the picture even more of how a man should love his wife: “In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies.” 

So, let me backup to the husbands part first: “Love your wives just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” Husbands are to love their wives like Jesus. To wildly and unconditionally love her with all of her flaws. To love her as their own bodies and give himself up for her. 

My husband does just that.

The whole purpose of marriage was because Adam NEEDED Eve. It was not good for man to be alone, and so, God made a “helper” for him. (Not a servant for him but a helper, someone who was a partner.) And so, the two became one flesh. 

So, if my husband loves me like crazy–loves me like Jesus–and I’ve submitted myself to Jesus as my Lord, wouldn’t I want to reciprocate my husband’s love through my everyday moments of love and submission? 

I submit to him because he loves me like my Lord and Savior. 

He loves me like Jesus Christ.